“There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.”
~ Christopher Morley
Almost daily clients come to me seeking advice and guidance about their ” life path.” I hear questions like “which direction should I be going towards in my career?” or “what should I be doing with my life?” Even the most confident and ambitious person may come to that cross roads in their life where they no longer feel comfortable with direction their life has taken them. Somewhere along the way, they may have made decisions that were more about being practical and lost track of what really made them happy or why they chose that profession in the first place.
This reminds me of last week, when my BFF Maxine and I had a lovely 3-hour lunch on a Tuesday at our favorite fun sushi spot in West Hollywood. We have weekly appointed “girl time” in which we also incorporate our “co-coaching” business sessions somewhere in the middle of the food, drinks and laughter. On this particular day, we both stopped to acknowledge how fortunate we were to be doing exactly what we wanted in our careers. Ok, so the conversation actually went something like this.
ME: “Hey, isn’t it awesome that we are doing exactly what we love?
HER: “OMG, totally! I am so crushing on my career!” (Yes, even as adult entrepreneurial women we still talk this way) .
Being friends since we were 11, Maxine and I know exactly what makes the other happy, what are true skills are and what motivates us. Because we love proving our own points, we made a list of why we had super-crushes on our careers (when we were in high school this was usually a list of our super-crushes on boys. Oh, who am I kidding. We’ve done that all our lives).
Me: (as a Tarot Reader and Manifesting Coach/Entrepreneur) I have always loved helping people, using my knowledge of psychology/human behavior, being independent/not having other people tell me what to do, telling other people what to do, using my intuition to see how a situation will lead to an outcome, crisis counseling, creating programs, flexible schedule/ability to travel, tied to the celebrity & entertainment world, public speaking, empowering people, lots of social interaction, income that has no salary limits.
Maxine: (as Founder and Chief of Vanity Girl Hollywood/Brand Ambassador/Entrepreneur) She loves glamour, make up, sparkly things, talking about/creating/surrounding herself in beauty, luxury, using her skills in PR, marketing and branding, international travel, connecting people, celebrities & entertainment, networking, writing, public speaking, flexible schedule, business, and unlimited income potential.
It’s pretty exciting to know that we have created so much happiness + success in our businesses. What’s more exciting is that our businesses continue to grow because they don’t feel like work, so they move (mostly) with ease and grace. The truth is, everyone can create careers that they love. If you know what you want to spend your time doing, where your skills are, and how those skills can help others then you are more than halfway there.
Working with my clients through this process is actually really fun. I start with some basics, which include confidence building which helps to remind them that they can and have already created many things in their lives out of “nothing.” Then we move towards finding out their skills and passions. This process is about discovering what you love spending your time on, what is important to you, and what skills you have that others would find valuable. You might also ask your friends and family what they find your most valuable assets are. They would be able to see things that you might overlook.
Just last night I had a 60 minute session with a new client in Boston and helped her carve out a new path for her career. She’s moving away from real estate and going into the parenting advice arena. She’s totally excited and invigorated now and I am excited to see how she progresses. One of my other clients who has been through my manifesting groups as well as individual coaching, is a beautiful super-social woman with pretty impressive flirting skills . She’s also a lover of love and always notices women’s engagement rings. Is it any surprise that she’s crushing on the Love & Attraction Coaching biz we developed for her? And to find your Career Crush, you don’t have to have dreams of being an entrepreneur. I had a client who is tri lingual and has an MBA but she came to realize she wanted to be an Executive Assistant. Why? Because she loved supporting powerful people, being the behind-the-scenes hero and she wanted the prestige of working for a Fortune 500 company. Plus she said she loved dressing up and working in an office.
The biggest obstacle that stops you from attracting your dream career is not that it doesn’t exist (it does) or that you can’t make money doing what you love (you can). You must first believe that you can do it. But isn’t that amazing that you have control over that? You can change how you feel and your mind set about your career. It’s all up to you.
If you are ready to find some clarity about your life direction let me know how I can help. As you know from reading this, I would love to.
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